Negative “Programs” From Your Parents…How to Break the Mold
Are negative “programs” from your parents lurking in your subconscious mind and destroying your life without you even knowing
it? We know that parents affect their children’s behavior. But what happens as children become adults? Those same negative programs from growing up rent space inside their mental warehouse, lurking in the subconscious mind. These negative programs are stopping you from experiencing generational blessings.
Three Ways to Stop Negative Programs From Destroying Your Life
- Be Aware That they Are Lurking
- Clean Up Your Mental Wharehouse
- Choose Creations That You Can Love
We must first be aware that there are negative programs from our parents that are lurking in our subconscious mind in order to stop them from further destroying our lives. That said, its time to get real and claim generational blessings for yourself and all the generations that follow. Be transparent with your Self. This may require you to do a self-inquiry of who you are…really. You need to start the process there. Who you are has nothing to do with the labels you wear, the degrees you hold, or the things you own. The essence of who you are is deeper.
Meditation is a wonderful way to allow things that were lurking inside, that you were not aware of to surface. Going within will allow you to come to a place of conscious awareness. When things pop up, observe it. Accept that it is there and then peacefully release it into the nothingness in which it came. Thought. Anything that does not serve your highest self should be released. Once you are aware of what is lurking inside your mental warehouse, the next step is to get rid of it. Clean it up. No one can do this for you. Cleaning your mental warehouse is up to you. Release all of the negative thoughts lurking, and choose generational blessings.
- Love Yourself
No matter if you are a parent or not, we all have the power to break the mold for generational blessings. Peace and love, a strong sense of inspiration, and success is your birthright. When you love yourself, you honor yourself. And when you honor yourself you attract the same honor and respect from your spouse and your children. If you are a conscious parent, fear will not stop you from protecting your children. Love will always prevail. Self-honor and self-respect are part of the vital love and support we are to give our children. We give this to them through experience. It is not a family code or handbook we give out when they learn to read. Rather it’s a way we feel, how we behave, speak, act and react to each experience together.
It is a parent’s responsibility to show children love, honor, and respect in all that we do so that they can experience it for themselves. If we can do this, one by one, we can change lives. We need to start promoting values as human beings which can be universal regardless of life situations, race, religion, or belief systems. This is how we can manifest generational blessings. We are human beings whose purpose is always to love. It is why we are here.
Teach your children to love and honor
Generational blessings require parents to teach children to love and honor through experience, not language. The quagmire of vocabulary is limiting and imprisoning. In allowing experience as a teacher in this classroom of life, you are opening the door to infinite possibilities of growth, and generational blessings. You and your children are in this world to expand beyond the vocabulary of self that you were taught. This is part of the re-wiring needed to experience generational blessings. You need to identify your natural self. You are not your mother. You are not your father. You are not your past life situation.
- Domestic Violence
If you are someone that has been exposed to violent acts of abuse growing up and see it today as normal or okay, then you will need to re-wire. This behavior is not okay. The fact that you experienced this in your upbringing, does not mean it is acceptable behavior. The goal for you will be to break the pattern. In doing so, you will learn to communicate with love, as you speak the truth in love. Using our hands to hit, is not an expression of love. Hands are to be used righteously, to comfort, to serve, and to heal. If you find yourself in a circumstance where the old pattern begins to emerge, it may require you to walk away in silence, until you are able to return to a conscious state of presence. The point is that a conscious shift must take place in order to break the mold for generational blessings.
- Don’t be That Judgemental Parent
I have known people that had plenty of talent and passion, but no self-esteem or drive because their mother or father was judgemental. If you are a parent, stop telling your child they are not good enough, or that they disappoint you, or that they need to be more like this person or that person. Additionally, if they have a passion for something, support them in it. Don’t be a dream crusher by telling them it’s not good enough. That will spin into raising up an adult who hates what they do for a living or jumps from one thing to the next in search of their purpose in life. Love and support your children in all that they do. The goal is to promote generational blessings.
- Relationships are Teachers
All relationships are teachers. They are all experiences that are transient and provide opportunities for learning and growth. The constitution of marriage can be viewed as a double-edged sword. It can bring Divine love into your daily experiences, or it can bring mortal fear into your daily experiences. There is an old saying that some marriages are made in heaven, and some are made in hell. Metaphorically speaking, this is true. Although most of us have the best intentions and imagine they will be married happily ever after, we are just not there yet as a collective society. Maybe one day. If we can learn to live life mindfully, in a state of presence, knowing that love is the heartbeat of life itself, then perhaps it can be a reality for many marriages to come. Remember, the challenges we experience are necessary for self- evolution to take place. If we had no tests or challenges in life, we would not evolve. It is that simple.
- Strengthening the Light Within You
The universal law of relativity states that we all receive these tests and challenges of initiation for the purpose of strengthening the light within. What I learned is that we must always remain connected to the heart as we move through an experience in order to find solutions to these life issues. Don’t say or think “My life stinks.” Instead, understand that these situations and occurrences are not your life. Life lives eternally at the heart center. It is not an external occurrence. There may be current situations going on in your life, but they are not your life. You are life. And you have the magic within you to move through any life situation. There isn’t a situation in the world that is more powerful than presence. Presence can move mountains.
- Children of Divorced Parents
When there is a divorce, regardless of the horrific happenings during the marriage, children will still feel a degree of pain and separation, even if they have suffered a lot during the family’s time together. Every child at one point in their young life dreams of their mom and dad together living happily ever after. Don’t kid yourself into believing otherwise. It seems to be a natural desire. So be mindful of the children and protect their hearts, even in divorce. Remember they love you both. Even if a parent has been judged to do wrong by the child, the child deep down longs for love and acceptance from that parent at a much deeper level. Understand that the parent they experienced love with all along, has already shown their love and acceptance. Conversely, the child will chase and seek love and acceptance from the parent who they have lacked from, no matter how unworthy you have judged them to be. It is not for us to judge.
“You don’t want their grown-up hearts to be full of the things they heard as children.”
Everyone is worthy of love. We want to remove the added stories that are attached to the pain so we can stop the suffering and come into peace. So don’t hate a child’s mom or dad. Don’t ask them to route for a team. The best thing a father can ever teach a young child, is the expression of love for their mother, even in divorce, and vice versa. You don’t want their grown-up hearts to be full of the things they heard as children. That only creates more pain that lives on inside of them for years and will affect them as adults. Be silent and allow the child’s heart to intuitively guide them back to the only thing that matters, which is love. It costs nothing to show love. It costs everything not to.
“We teach children to love, honor, and respect through experience. It is not a family code or handbook we give out when they learn to read.”
Purpose yourself to keep love and honor at the forefront of every experience that your children encounter. Children are natural sensory magnets. They feel, pick up, and soak in all of the emotions that are in your energy field. The goal as a parent is always to return home…to that place of love within. To honor and respect oneself are part of the vital love we are to give our children. We teach children to love, honor, and respect through experience. It is not a family code or handbook we give out when they learn to read. Rather it’s a way we feel, how we behave, speak, act and react to each experience together. It is a parent’s responsibility to show children love, honor, and respect in all that we do so that they can experience it for themselves. If we can do this, one by one, we can change lives.
We need to start promoting values as human beings which can be universal regardless of life situations, race, religion, or belief systems. This is how we can manifest generational blessings. We are human beings whose purpose is always to love. This is why we are here. Let’s break the mold for generational blessings, together. If you are a parent, a single parent, a divorced parent, or a caregiver I strongly urge you to pick up a copy of “Truth To Triumph” and read it. Use it as a guide in helping you understand the impact we have on our children and how to break the mold for generational blessings.